Let’s talk wedding vows: the most personal, most intimate part of your big day. As you stand before family and friends, committing yourself to the love of your life, which specific words will be most appropriate and meaningful for you?
Wouldn’t it be nice to make those words uniquely your own?
Vows written by the couple themselves are completely distinctive. They give you a way to say exactly what you want to say, nothing more, nothing less. What’s more, you’ll be delighted to include these unique vows in your wedding album or display them in your home as a constant reminder of your love.
Here’s where you'll want to take a look at A Wedding Celebration That's True to You, particularly the part about your personality. If you and your significant other are funny and lighthearted, feel free to incorporate humor and ease into your vows. If you’re more reserved or are having a very formal ceremony, perhaps traditional vows with special additions would be a good fit.
Whatever you do, take into consideration the tone you want to set not only for the ceremony, but also for your new life together.
What do vows generally include?
But remember, you don’t have to say everything right now. Your vows don't need to be pages and pages long. Touch on what is most significant as well as what you want to look to as the foundation for your marriage.
For your vows, prioritize what's most important to you to say during the ceremony itself, keeping in mind that it's fine to save the rest of your thoughts for a speech during the reception or even for a private wedding message to your new spouse.
Some common themes from couples include wishing they’d addressed the following:
Even if you have a near-perfect memory, you’ll want to be sure to write out your vows, just to be safe. Wedding days can be intense and you'll appreciate the ease of being able to read your vows rather than risk your mind going blank at a crucial moment. Your officiant can carry a copy for you, and it’ll not only be a safeguard against wedding day jitters but a special keepsake later.
Because, in the end, isn’t that what your vows are truly about?
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